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Why is a Woman’s Weight an Issue?


It really urkes me when a woman says she is overweight or is too fat. It makes me wonder who she is trying to impress: herself or what others think of her. To me, the overweight issue is mostly in someone’s mind. Even I think I am fat, though people tell me I am not. But still, there remains this deep resentment toward my own figure that I consciously acknowldege is purely my vain side longing for my interpretation of perfection. But that isn’t the case for others. The ideas of “thin” or “self-acceptability” are merely dangling carrots we can never truly reach. Therefore, we tend to miss out on good times because we wreck our own vibes with inner disappointment.

Recently, I met a woman who calims she “needs to lose weight.” I asked her why and she replied, “Because I used to be thin.” But as I see it, she was already thin. She pointed out other women who are “thin, and I said it isn’t always a good idea to compare yourself to others. After all, some people just have crazy metabolism and are thinner naturally anyway. And in many cases, there are people you can stand next to and feel rather small. Think about it: There is always someone in this world that would love to be in your shoes. Literally and figuratively (no pun intended). I told this woman that she doesn’t need to lose weight, she just needs to be happy with herself. That struck a chord, I think, because she ate sugar cookies later that evening.

Let’s face it: No one is perfect. I know that is cliche, but the more cliche something is, the less you truly understand what it truly means. In other words, if the saying “no one is perfect” is true (and it is), then everyone you think is so perfect is also looking in the mirror and saying “I really need to lose weight,” or “I have to change this…” Everyone.

Ok, so you think some people are more “beautiful,” but the perception of beauty begins with yourself. That sets the tone and the source of the vibes you give off. Men know this is one of women’s deepest and most exploited weaknesses. And believe me, men will use that against women any chance they get. Confidence in yourself is key, though it doesn’t always surface. Women have emotional needs that are often neglected. And that isn’t always the woman’s fault. Men need to be sensitive to what is important to women.

I believe if men accepted women’s figures just the way they are (because every woman is unique and beautiful in her own way), the world would be a better place. But sometimes I get the feeling that the perception of what a woman deems “thin” or “beautiful” is based firmly on what menbelieve to be “thin” or “beautiful.” And if you think about it, you’ll see this is true. Where did women get this idea that they need to be a certain weight? It’s the concept of what is “ideal” that is rooted in what men find attractive. Attraction of the opposite sex. That is where it is rooted whether we like it or not. I can’t speak for gays, I don’t know about that. But in the heterosexual world, it’s about men and women -and we are all a part of this cat and mouse game.

But then again, I know it’s not that simple. I know women get married and have children and then extra pounds make you feel yucky. It isn’t easy being a woman, and I respect that fact. Women don’t stop wanting to feel beautiful after they get married or have kids. Just because they’ve been with someone half their lives doesn’t change their longings or desires entirely. And women don’t stop being beautiful. Not after 10 kids or after their 50th birthday.

It just pains me to know women out there are feeling down because of how they look. Not all men are dousche bags. Not all of us are ignoring your beauty. There is always going to be someone that will love every woman, not matter the circumstance. God is merciful, and there is always adoration around you.

I just want to say to all women that your are beautiful. Feel proud and embrace your womanhood. The thoughts of some do not represent the sentiments of all. You are beautiful in whatever you wear because underneath that exterior, you are ALL woman. And TRUE men everywhere have to bow their heads to you…

**This blog was originally posted on myspace.com/jvmykamusic on 9/24/09, titled “Words to Women and edited 6/5/13 for One World Pool.”


2 thoughts on “Why is a Woman’s Weight an Issue?

  1. Im impressed, I must say. Really rarely do I encounter a blog thats both educative and entertaining, and let me tell you, you have hit the nail on the head. Your idea is outstanding; the issue is something that not enough people are speaking intelligently about. I am very happy that I stumbled across this in my search for something relating to this.


  2. This is my first time i visit here. I found so many entertaining stuff in your blog, especially its discussion. From the tons of comments on your posts, I guess I am not the only one having all the enjoyment here! Keep up the excellent work.


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